London Mistress examines the process of becoming among BDSM practitioners based on a five-year qualitative ethnographic study in Sweden of Bondage and Discipline/Dominance and Submission/Sadism and Masochism (BDSM). We conducted in-depth interviews with 29 people who identified themselves as BDSM practitioners and used thematic analysis to analyse their stories. A key component of the BDSM theory is the Deleuzian concept of becoming, which views BDSM as a dynamic and collective phenomenon closely linked to fantasies, memories, and longings. Following BDSM is an ongoing process of expanding, creating, and connecting in which desire is not seen as a lack or need but rather an ongoing process of striving and self-enhancement. Understanding why some people choose to practise BDSM by exploring the becoming process in greater depth can be helpful.
It is important to follow safety precautions when using BDSM, despite the fact that it is entertaining and safe. Know how to use any clothing, gear, or toy safely before attempting to use it. If you’re not careful or don’t use the proper equipment, bondage and pain play, for example, can put you in harm’s way.
Another thing to keep in mind is that BDSM isn’t right for everyone. It’s not uncommon for people to have fantasies about BDSM-related practises, but they don’t necessarily want to engage in them. For some, reading or watching BDSM scenes is more enjoyable than engaging in real-world activities like those described in the shows.
Study after study has found that being a part of successful sadomasochistic scenes makes people feel more intimate with their partners.
It’s not clear why, but Foot Mistress London shows that doing something new with a romantic partner rather than the same routine activities increases intimacy. The reward system in the brain is activated and dopamine and other feel-good chemicals are flooded into the brains of married couples, according to brain scans.